What exactly does a personal attendant to do?
I'm not surprised you did not find anything specific about the duties ofa "personal attendant" because it's an old "job" with a fairly new "title". For as long as women have been having weddings in the modern sense we have now, they've been assisted by those close to them whenfamily and friends were available.Both in weddings where I've served as an attendant, and at weddings I have designed for, I've often served in the capacity of "personal attendant". The duties of a personal attendant vary because they *are* very personal.What I would suggest is that you be in touch with this sister in the last week or two before the wedding, if not earlier, so she is fully tuned in to your concerns and priorities. This will help you both decide and understand-- before and during the wedding-- what duties will be most important.Think specifically about what you would like her to handle for you. Then also, keep her updated on anything you are particularly concerned about, so she can keep her eyes open for ways to smooth those situations as the day goes along.
To get you started, some typical "duties" you might ask her to be responsible for:
~helping you transport your gown and attire
~helping you dress
~holding a touch-up/emergency bag for you (lipstick, breath mints, aspirin, safety pins, deodorant/perfume, etc.)
~fielding messages for you at home/ceremony site so your aren't interrupted for every little thing
~protecting your privacy/quiet time pre-ceremony, if you values it
~taking messages/gifts to the groom, if you will not see one another
~various "go-fer" duties-- keep her eyes open on wedding day to see whatneeds to be done, checked, handled, smoothed over.
If she (and the bridesmaids as a group) can do a good job of this, beingJohnny-on-the-spot so you doesn't even hear about some of the little glitches, they can make your day *much* more relaxed.I want to repeat that you should follow your own instincts on what her duties should be. You will know best what you need and want.Foreverwed.com Expert-- Sara L. Ambarian author/creativeconsultant/custom bridal designer